Often in life, we reflect on the paths we’ve taken and how we’ve defined success. Looking back helps us understand where we’ve come from—and where we’re heading. Along the way, we hit bumps in the road. These moments can either spark growth or leave us stuck in the past.
There are many ways a person can feel stuck. I’ve felt stuck in the pain of my childhood as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). That trauma left a deep mark, and I carried it with me into adulthood. One source of grief was the reality that, because of my experience, I was unable to bear biological children. That made me angry. It felt unfair.
But life had other blessings in store. I married a man with two precious little girls, just 7 and 3 years old when we met. Becoming their “Momma C” was a role I’ll cherish for the rest of my life. Still, my journey was shaped by heartache. My relationships with men were marked by sorrow and failure. I didn’t know how to fully love or engage in a healthy relationship, and that struggle led to four marriages. Each one left scars on my heart, and I often wondered what was wrong with me.
Yet through all this pain, I learned something powerful: our pain can become our strength. We don’t have to stay rooted in past hurts—failed relationships, lost careers, broken friendships, fractured family dynamics. Failure might knock us down, might plunge us into sadness, but it can also be the turning point.
Failures can be powerful teachers—if we’re willing to listen. Mistakes are an essential part of growing as a person. The challenge is that we often fixate on the mistake itself, rather than on what it’s trying to teach us.
But what if we shifted our focus?
What if we viewed mistakes as stepping stones instead of setbacks? By embracing the lessons hidden within our missteps, we not only learn—we also gain the wisdom to help others navigate their own journeys..
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